Everyday

I had to look this up.  Everyday as one word means common while every day is literal.  I think this distinction is pretty cool.

Today is a special day and I was inspired by Zahra to write this.  It’s not great writing, but I want to come back to read this and remember how I was feeling when I wrote this.

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Every Day is Everyday

The sunrises Everyday

The stars are in the sky Everyday

We make memories Everyday

Let the memories hold on to you Every Day

It’s hard, we’re just pathetic humans

Still,

Every Day is Everyday

— 

Taher, the sun rises every day.  Not just on vacation; it is literally everyday.

Panera

Panera keeps giving!  I’m enjoying some relaxing time at Panera today. A week ago we were knee deep in Ashara planning, ITS that wouldn’t cooperate and was seriously frustrating, and complicated logistics. Stress was all around. It was damn near impossible to be calm. I knew it would all work out eventually. It always seems to. It was hard to remember that and it was so hard to reassure others. 

We got a good reminder yesterday in misaq and waaz. A part of the waaz that really stayed with me was just have baroso. You’ve got the main and important stuff, don’t worry. The misaq reinforced this Khuda koy ne aape koy ne na aape. Khuda koy ne uncha kare koy ne neecha kare. Don’t worry. And ends with Mubarak. You have this oath and you’ve made it. 

Today I’m enjoying some time at Panera. Just after I entered a dad came in with his one year old. The kids was in adorable. He was in the phase where he could walk and really couldn’t talk yet. The Panera employee saw this cute kid and gave him a cookie. He was so excited!!!  The cookie was about the size of his face!😁. A little while later an old guy with a walker was getting coffee. I was able to hold his coffee and the door so he could navigate getting out without spilling. Just now I saw some guy hold the door for someone else that was holding a bunch of stuff. It was great. It was a small thing. 

Taher, notice the small things at Panera. Taher, let the little things pile up. 

Never know

I didn’t write this, but I’ve begun to appreciate it very much. It is very poetic and stands up very well without music. I want to come back and read later. 

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We're breaking and rebuilding
And we're growing, always guessing

Never knowing
Shocking but we're nothing
We're just moments
We're clever but we're clueless
We're just human
Amusing and confusing
We're trying but where is this all leading
We'll never know

It all happened so much faster than you could say disaster
Wanna take a time-lapse and look at it backwards from the last one
And maybe that's just the answer that we're after
But after all we're just a bubble in a boiling pot
Just one breath in a chain of thought
The moments just combusting
Feel certain but we'll never, never know
Sure seems the same

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Taher, remember that you never know. Leave a margin for what’s important. Be the early bird. 

Pina Colada

I've always associated the Pina Colada song (I think it's called Escape) with vacation.  It's a rather silly song.  It's about a guy who's bored with his marriage and puts out a personal ad.  He puts out the ad with all the things he wants.  He gets a response and plans to meet up with the woman.  In a twist, his wife answers the ad.  She's all the things he wants.  

This song is silly, but it is not a vacation song.  It's good to hear on vacation though.  Seems like it's easier to think about what you want while on vacation.  The guy in this song didn't realize he already had everything he wanted.  It's not about wanting something else, it's about wanting what you've got.

Taher, when you hear this song let it be a reminder to you that you already have everything you want.  Don't just listen to this song on vacation.

Birdbath

This morning, I was eating breakfast and looking out over the backyard and trees as I often do.  Today was a rainy morning and there was a bird bathing in a puddle.  I could tell it wasn’t thinking more than 5 seconds in the future.  It was just doing wazu and enjoying the puddle.  It would submerge half its body and then shake off the water.  There was nothing special about this bird.  It was smallish and boring mix of brown colors.

The bird was just doing it’s thing and was totally in the moment.  It didn’t seem to think about where it’s next meal would come from or what it would be doing later.  It was just doing wazu.

Taher, don’t worry about all the things.  Be like the bird and just do your thing.

Frame

Our mindset can determine our actions.  That's why it's so important.  Stuff happens and that's unavoidable.  We have the ability to respond and not react to stuff.

What is the right response?  It's almost never frustration.  That's a reaction.  A more useful response is probably passion.  Framing the situation is key.  Passion is almost always positive.  I think of a cool word I learned a while back, equanimity. This basically means ability to remain calm.  Being calm seems to almost never be a bad thing.

Frustration is inevitable.  It can be expressed like a toddler, suppressed, expressed as passion, or something more difficult like being calm.  

The positive part is up to us.   That's the mindset piece.  It's important that your actions follow your niyat.  Your actions won't be 100% positive, but cut yourself some slack Taher.  

Taher, be clear what you want your mindset to be. Your niyat can be 100%.

Faith

The other day I heard a family kid relay some wrong information. For some reason, I felt compelled to correct her. I somehow assumed the role of elder😅

She said, “my friend in Jamea said this”. I responded, “still wrong”. She turned to her friend and said what I was saying made more sense. I saw her grow in that moment.

I also thought about my place. It’s not only student and not only to listen. Listening should very regularly be the majority, but not always. I thought about this thing I corrected probably way more than anyone else. I felt compelled to find them the next day and explain a bit more and to leave them with a thought to think more and not just take my word for it. 

This whole thing made me wonder about reason. It’s a critical part of faith I think. You have to accept something without understanding so that you can apply reason. It sounds contradictory, but it’s not. More simply, “to see reality, we must focus on the unseen and unproven”

I don’t understand, but this seems to be vital to happiness. 

Taher, reason requires faith.